The Culture of Slut Shaming

I thought I’d share a photography post today. My creativity just won’t stop. One amazing thing about blogging is that it’s made me write every day and it forces me to get creative and I just love it. Everything just feels harmonious and right, on the surface that is…

Deep down in my soul, I’m an artist, and what is creativity without meaning? Everything we create comes from somewhere and for me, I guess I have a lot of issues with our culture and society.

“Art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable”

Cesar A. Cruz

I wanted to look at the concept of slut shaming today. I don’t like to use that word and it fills me with horror when I hear women using that word to describe other women. You are part of the problem.

As I’ve been growing on Instagram, I’ve been finding my confidence, within myself. I am an exhibitionist, as I think many of us are. You could argue that social media has capitalised on people’s exhibitionism, without them even realising they have it.

I’ve slowly been trying to break barriers within myself and question what I think is acceptable, what others think is acceptable and what is okay for me to share about myself. As a whole, I am very careful with my photography. I use lighting and shadows, colours and my curves to create the illusion of nudity.

I don’t need to be naked to look naked and I’ve found this is my limit, my absolute limit and now that I’ve got here I feel liberated. So long have I hid my exhibitionism and felt a great deal of shame for it.

I read an awesome book a few months ago called ‘healing from the shame you don’t deserve,’ by Beverly Engel…

Read my review here.

Anyway, that was the start of my journey into this. It made me realise how much shame I’ve been carrying around with me and how much it’s held me back in life…

Seriously, it crushed all my dreams for the longest time.

What is Slut Shaming

As a feminist, I get so annoyed by this. It actually makes me angry, and I don’t like to be angry.

What I will say is that a lot of the slut shaming I have faced in life actually came from women, of an older generation, who obviously grew up in a different time.

They don’t realise they are shackled by dated concepts and thoughts that don’t fit into our society. As a young parent, (I had my son at the age of sixteen), I faced a lot of stigma in my teens and twenties. So I’m not just some angry feminist, I have experienced what I am talking about.

For the longest time, I was weighed down by shame, guilt and anger. In ways, I didn’t even realise.

Simple things like asking a doctor for birth control as a young woman made me feel shame. Dressing up for a night out would end up in countless wardrobe changes. I’d think to myself ‘this looks good, but is it appropriate?’

Appropriate for who?

I think this is the ultimate question. I’m just going to put out there that I am no longer conforming to society’s standards and I am just doing what I think is right for me. Truly that’s what feminism is and should be about. A liberating movement to free women from outdated concepts and to ask themselves what do they want?

It’s not about hating men. I’m not a man-hater. Men actually face a lot of shame in other ways. They’re told ‘not to cry, or to ‘man up, and I think one thing we can all agree on is that we all have issues with the way we look because of things like advertising and airbrushing etc…

The point is, I feel like I just want to shake the world sometimes, or hit the reset button or something. Outdated concepts are no longer being tolerated on this blog.

If I could give you one thing to think about today it’s got to be why do we slut shame people? Especially young women. The damage we are doing to that person and ourselves let us free ourselves from old ideas instead…


So I did two sets of photography, in the first I wanted to look like a sixties playboy kind of mag, the hair and makeup, soft lighting…

First of all who wouldn’t? I have a post on finding your inner goddess, where I talk about releasing your inner confidence and getting in touch with who you truly are.

You can read release your inner Goddess here.

Second of all, there is nothing wrong with women being sexual and neither should we feel shame for it. Let’s see it as something beautiful.

The second set was more of a punk vibe. I wanted to covey the words of shame like paint, all over myself and use a kind of cheeky pin-up gal style to show how unbothered I am about those words of shame… I’m just gonna keep on doing my thing.

I hope you enjoyed my post today. Photography is one of my creative passions. As is unpicking at the fabric of society.

Have I inspired you? I hope so. Let’s stop using the word s***.

They push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the people who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.

Steve Jobs



5 thoughts on “The Culture of Slut Shaming

  1. So many people seem to think they get an opinion of other people’s bodies — the sooner this changes the better. How someone expresses themselves or what they feel comfortable doing/showing/wearing, etc is nobody else’s business. It’s the “well, I wouldn’t do/wear x, y, z” that gets me as why say it? You’re not that person and that’s the point! Great post — thanks for sharing!

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